5.01.2011

True Love

Our sermon today was the first in a new series at Buckhead entitled "Love, Sex and Dating".  I absolutely loved it as I do all of Andy Stanley's series.  The series was geared toward singles but I took so much valuable information away about relationships and most importantly marriage.  If you want to watch the message or any other from Buckhead Church click here.  Today's isn't up yet but it will be!

The first thing he said I connected with was this.  He has never met a couple that has marital problems.  They have problems and they are married.  Marital problems include how to hang the toilet paper and where to squeeze the toothpaste.  The rest are problems we all had before we got married that we brought into the marriage and somehow thought would be made better.  My therapist says both Lawyer and I had Hefty sacks of garbage we brought into the marriage and we put them together and somehow thought they would be smaller or completely nonexistent.   So incredibly true.  All of the stuff that makes marriage harder was there before the marriage was added.  The only thing that is different now is that life and marriage just brings that garbage closer to the surface.

The second point I took away was this.  Every thing you have done in your past will be present in your future.  Make choices that you are willing to be faced with for the rest of your life. 

Another good point.  Don't marry the person you find chemistry with.  Marry the person that you have a solid relationship with.  We can and do have chemistry with so many people.  But chemistry fades and the relationship will last forever. 

And this point I loved!!!  Do not search for the right person.  Become the person you are searching for and that person will find you.  I so wish I had learned this long ago.  I am now confident at 41 that I am the person my husband should be married to for the rest of his life.  And visa verse.  But when we got married I was not.  He definitely saw things in me that were buried.  I had potential but I was very rough around the edges.  I was insecure, immature, lost and the product of a very broken home.  Only in the last year have I faced my garbage and dealt with each piece.  Do not get me wrong I have a long way to go ... but I have come a very long way.  I am now confident, more mature, grounded, patient and kind.  This year of therapy has changed my life and therefore changed my marriage.  It has brought us to a place that we both love.

The series is based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ...

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

This is the perfect verse for every relationship in our lives.  Marriage, motherhood, friendship ... every one. 
I can not wait for next week!!!

xo,
MPM

3 comments:

  1. Excellent post! I adore Andy Stanley. When my kids lived in Atlanta, they attended Buckhead Church. I so enjoyed every single service there. Did you by any chance see the Good Friday service last Easter? Oh my - the most powerful service I have ever seen. Hope you are well. XOXO

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  2. What a wonderful post, and sounds like it was a great sermon! I agree that these points are very good for everyone, not just singles. If I'm ever a mother, I will drill those points into my kid's heads! Especially about being the person you'd hope to find! I think I'm there now, but it took a while!

    Everyone makes mistakes, and you've got to learn to forgive yourself. However, the past is often an issue in the present if you haven't "dealt with the garbage" as you put it. I'm glad you've done that. I have too, and now I think it makes me a better wife to know that even though my upbringing wasn't always "perfect" it doesn't dictate what kind of life I'll have in the future!

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  3. I love this post! I so need to hear a sermon like this - it has been too long. That Corinthians verse about love is one of my very favorite Bible verses; so incredibly true! xx

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